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Time To Think

Most of us are not intentionally mean spirited or hateful. We don’t look for opportunities to hurt others nor do we teach our children to do so. But I would have to argue that merely teaching them to NOT be hurtful IS NOT enough! We must show them what it looks like to BE loving, grace-filled and kind. My youngest revealed this truth to me when she decided not to share her toys with her cousin. When I spoke with…

Offended Christians

What’s the deal about Christians being offended? Let me start by saying we are all humans, which means we experience physical moments on our spiritual journey. So yes, we may be hurt by people. However, we should be distinguishable in how we deal with our “hurt” feelings.  Christians are some of the most easily offended people in the world, when in reality we should be the least.  If we are discerning, we ignore gossip, we address concerns directly with the…

A Good Listener

The art of being a good listener is becoming more and more of a lost art. Face to face and even phone conversations are no longer the primary way we communicate. Our interactions are primarily through the computer and cell phone where we email or text in terse, abbreviated, and frequently misunderstood modes. When we do have in-person conversations, these same devices turn us into one of Pavlov’s dogs, immediately turning our attention the minute we hear a ding. It’s nearly…

Planted or Buried

Have you noticed no one ever says they are burying seeds, but they say they are planting seeds in anticipation of harvesting later? We associate planting with life, newness and fruitfulness. But we bury to hide, leave, or end something. There is no expectation of future return. I have a question for you: Do you live like you’re Planted or Buried? God wants you to know that you’ve been planted, but satan wants you to think that you’ve been buried. So it’s…

One Thing

Sometimes you just need a laugh.  You know those days when you wake up with a to-do list a mile long and you’re already stressing. So let’s hit the rewind button and start over. State in your mind FIRST what is most important. God is your rock and your refuge. Seek Him first. Secondly, learn to recognize when you start to drift away from what is most important. Repeat out loud what is most important to you. Thirdly, Reclaim your…

Protecting Our Kids From Technology

May I talk candidly with you about kids and phones?  Giving a child a phone without proper “training and guidance” is the same as putting a teen behind the wheel of a car without training and telling her to go and have fun! The latter you would never do, but if we’re honest, most of us have handed our kids a smart phone and thought nothing about the magnitude of the device we placed in their hands. I’m not saying…

Just Perfect

Grocery shopping is always an adventure for me. Climbing into cold storage units or scaling up shelves along the isle are common. Usually I try to maneuver about discreetly, but sometimes I stalk tall people; following them down an aisle, asking them to grab an extra bottle or two as they reach for theirs. When you’re four feet nine inches tall, vertical storage = “opportunity for creative problem solving”.  There was a time when I didn’t see it this way.…

Family Values

Values: State it, Own it, Live it What do you want your family to be like? How do you wish people would describe you? Twenty or thirty years from now, what do you hope your children will say about how they grew up and what they learned from you? At RedlandHills, we know what we want our family to be like: Our mission is to help our families   Connect with God, live in Community and share Compassion with others.…

Memory Work

May I help you for a moment?  I would love to help you teach your children how to walk in the authority of Christ. Memory work. Let’s start by committing to learn this statement and practice saying it aloud to your children as often as you can. “You have the authority to reject what is not true! Love yourself, like God loves you!” Break it down Now let’s break the statement down so they understand the magnitude of the words.…

Six Inspirational Quotes

Raising children can be draining. Besides praying scripture and reading books, I so appreciate quotes about parenting (and life in general) from wiser people, because they give me a quick battery recharge during my mundane tasks of running a family. I thought I would share a few of my favorite words of wisdom: 1. Good Kids “Don’t let yourself become so concerned with raising a good kid that you forget you already have one.” — Glennon Melton-Doyle, Momastery 2. Grounded…

Raising Culturally Aware Kids

According to research your child can see skin color and hair textures as early as 6 months old. By two, your child is putting words to what he recognizes and between 4 to 6 years old, he is assimilating likenesses. Anything that is unfamiliar or unlike him is yucky or funny looking. 7 to 10 year olds are beginning to refine their understanding of how we are different and alike all at the same time.  I included these statistics to…

God Love

I remember holding my son for the first time and experiencing a feeling of overwhelming love and sense of deep connection. I don’t know if I audibly said the words “I love you”, but every adjective I used to articulate my thoughts could have been replaced with love, love, love. In that moment, my brain didn’t register the cost of what “I love you” would and does require of me.  I had all the gushy, emotional, I’ll provide for you and…