Posts by Terry Dees (Page 3)

Posts by Terry Dees (Page 3)

Are you living out loud?

Living Out Loud? There are so many things that shout for our attention and devotion: our jobs, our kids, our spouses, our hobbies—the demands and distractions of life. To which we respond “If only I had an exciting job, a loving spouse, good children, vibrant health or money for more things – life would be great.”  But in reality, we know that isn’t true. So why do we frustrate ourselves by re-visiting these thoughts over and over? I believe it’s…

Fidgety, rambling, loner- it’s how i learn!

Ever wonder why your child won’t sit still or why she has to put her hands on everything? Have you tried to talk to her, but she keeps interrupting and completing your sentences? She may simply be doing what comes naturally to her based on how she’s wired to learn.  In other words this is how she receives, relates, and releases information. When our children were younger, We talked about how different our kids were yet we expected  them to be similar if…

It Takes A Village

In our fast paced, instant access world, a village is necessary to help navigate this thing called Parenthood. A Few Reasons why Villages are good: We are Better Together Parenting is hard and the thought of going it alone is overwhelming. When I had my first child, I lived hundreds of miles away from “family” (in fact 2 weeks after we arrived there, my son was born), but I quickly learned that I could have “family” in my church and…

In the midst of chaos, what do you choose?

I’m sitting here in my family room with clothes and papers sprawled over the floor and luggage everywhere. My daughter is preparing to go back to grad school this weekend. Any other time I would be quite annoyed  with the mounds of stuff heaped through out the house. But today I am so thankful for each pile. That is a huge statement coming from me! I like order, clean lines, clean floors, and schedules. My daughter can function quite well…

Model Stewardship

Stewardship, it’s a word we don’t use much anymore. When we hear it, most of us think about money and tithing in the church. However, stewardship is sooo much more. It’s about investing our time. It’s using our talents for God’s glory. It’s about service and sacrifice. As you help your kids begin to learn the importance of stewardship, help them see that a steward is a manager and God desires us to manage well what HE has entrusted to us.…

Packing the Backpack- 10 Must Haves!

It’s back to school time and parents all around are scurrying to purchase school supplies to fill their kids backpacks.   We frantically search for notebooks, binders, composition books, writing utensils, pouches, calculators, scissors, glue sticks, etc., but I think we habitually leave out one thing they MUST have. Inspiration. Our children need us to fill them with what they aren’t seeing and feeling right now. Let’s purpose to fill not only their backpacks but them with phrases, verses, and…

Disrespect- Back AAT You!

No, I didn’t misspell “at” but it’s an acronym for Address, Accept and Teach. I had originally chosen another topic for this week’s post, but I’ve been challenged by my little cousin’s visit this week to get back “AAT” you. She is a 7 year old sweet delight who sometimes has monumental meltdowns.   Instead of Stop, Drop and Roll, I’m relearning how to Stop, Breathe and Think about what may be causing her to meltdown in the moment and how to…

Learning How to Wait

Wait is a 4 letter word, most of us do not like to hear or do. Yet we expect our children to do the very thing we don’t want to do.   In scripture we are encouraged to “wait” on the LORD. But this wait, unlike our common use of the word is translated: longing, hope for, tarry, or eager anticipation.   Wow! What if we thought of our life in these terms of “waiting”?   Thinking of our life…

How To Talk to my Kids about Tragedies

We’ve had a few tragedies surrounding us recently. Young children, teens, and even adults may be disturbed by stories and images of people getting hurt. Children can become anxious and fearful about the world around them. The following guide from Child Development Institute addresses some of these concerns while providing prompts for discussions. I found it to be very helpful.   How to Talk about Tragedies: Depending on their age and level of maturity, children will perceive things differently than adults. Remember with…

Stopping Disrespectful Behavior

Russell Barkley, Child Psychologist, says, “When children need the most love, they will generally ask for it in the most unloving ways.”  As a parent it’s hard to look past the disrespectful words and actions and see your hurting child lashing out for help. In the moment, you may want to snap back at your child, or swat them and send them off to their room. But that doesn’t help anyone. How can you equip your little warrior with skills to…

Raising Confident Kids!

Do you desire your child to be confident in who he/she is? A confident child in Christ is quite different than a brash, entitled and spoiled child. Our desire is to raise the former. However sometimes in our efforts to raise confident children we foster habits and environments that are more conducive for the latter child. So how do we raise confident children?  First we must recognize that raising a confident child means helping him/her believe that he/she matters-period!  Affirm your…

Discipline? Why?

Have you given much thought to why you discipline your kids? I think we focus too much on the act of disciplining (training) our kids rather than why we’re training our kids. I know this sounds like semantics, but focusing on the why allows us to  speak to our children in terms of who God says they are and who God says they are becoming. Focusing on the act traps us in an unpleasant moment that is usually emotionally draining. When we…